A WORD OF ADVICE TO PARENTS-PLEASE MIND YOUR WORDS.
Raising children is a huge challenge. You may consider yourself to
be a good parent because you show you love and care for your child. But is that
all that is required to be a successful parent? Do you know that you might be
unintentionally and unconsciously hurting your child?
If you have a good memory, you might recall how, as a child, you were
very sensitive to what others said about you. A few casual yet sharp words used
by your parents, a momentary burst of anger by your dear mom or dad, a simple
joke that made everyone laugh at you … well, it hurt, didn’t it?
Now, as a parent, you can save your dear child from the pain
inflicted by words. It is always good to remember that your child is going
through a very sensitive phase in life, and every single word and gesture from
you will affect your child’s upbringing.
What you might lack as a parent is not caring, but understanding.
Not lack of intelligence, but lack of knowledge. Perfect parenting is indeed a
skill which you should specialize in for the sake of your child. At the core of
this skill is your communication to your child.
When we say communication, it is primarily the usage of words. In
a preoccupied state of mind, you might unthinkingly say something that might
inflict painful emotional wounds in your child. And the worst part is, you
might not be aware of it at all. Therefore, it is very important that you are
always conscious of the words you use when you communicate to your child. Use
words that are protective of feelings, and not critical of behavior.
Communication also happens through gestures. Hence, you need to be
aware of your body language while handling your child. An unintentionally indifferent
attitude while your child is talking to you, a cold expression at your child
accidentally, nudging your child away while you are engrossed at work … all
these small things might create a big negative impact on your child.
To put it in a nutshell, love is not enough. Insight is
insufficient. Perfect parenting is all about developing the skill to translate
desired ideals into daily practices. Beware of words. Be aware of your child’s
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