Single Parents need to conquer Multiple Challenges.
If one were
to list down the most challenging roles on earth, Single Parenting would easily
top the list. If you are a single parent, you will know that there cannot be a
more demanding, a more selfless and a more sensitive task that drains you emotionally, mentally and physically,
all through the day, all through the year!
that order, let us first consider the emotional aspect of Single Parenting.
could be a Single Parent for various reasons: a divorcee or a widow / widower
or awaiting legal separation or solely due your child’s birth. Whatever be the
reason, you get affected most forcibly by the emotional waves of Single
Parenting: a certain dreadful mixture of anxiety, insecurity and helplessness
that keep dragging you down as you attempt to surmount the challenges. At the
same time, your relationship with your child / children keeps getting stronger
as you are the only parent and the lone protector of your little ones. You keep
sensing changes in the way the society treats you, because, Single Parents are
perceived to be a weird species, even in this so-called modern generation.
then, there is the mental pressure of Single Parenting.
million things happening, all at the same time and you are all alone out there.
Taking care of the little needs for your children, facing bigger issues like
their education, preparing yourself as they undergo a vast change during their
adolescence, comforting them, encouraging them, supporting them … the list is
then, there is your own life and your own career to consider. Taking care of
your health, handling work pressure, planning for the future … whew! if only
your life partner was with you! The psychological stress of a Single Parent is indeed
but not the least, the colossal physical effort demanded from Single Parenting,
which could alarmingly drain one’s energy. Owing to the fact that there is no
partner to share the burden, a Single Parent has to essentially take on all the
responsibilities that need physical presence. The PTA meetings at school, those
heavy duty shopping sprees, the unavoidable socializing activities, the early
morning walks, besides of course, all those activities that pertain to the
parent’s own official duties.
is encouraging to note that defying societal stigma, Single Parenting could be made
remarkably advantageous to the parent. All the pains of raising a child
singlehandedly could turn out to be a BLESSING in disguise.
consider this. As a Single Parent, you enjoy all the love and admiration that
your dear child showers on you. No partner to share with, right? As a Single
Parent, you bring up your child based on your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle,
etc. No partner to infringe upon your freedom, right? As a Single Parent, you
have a single-minded focus based on which you have all the liberty to surge
ahead and achieve your mission. No partner to curb you, right?
a Single Parent, when you approach your responsibilities from these fresh perspectives,
you actually begin to redefine your life. And your child’s life. While you travel
with a refreshing outlook on your journey as a Single Parent, you also have to constantly
bear in mind that to emerge successful, you need to focus significantly, keep
persevering in your mission and have conviction in the unique role you are
three traits in you will not only make you a successful Single Parent, but also
serve as an inspiration for others like you.
all, Single Parenthood comes with multiple challenges. You evolve and grow
along with your child by dealing those challenges.